The Key to Connection: Mutual Goals
True compatibility is the feeling that you have a helpmate – someone who wants to help you reach your goals and develop as a person. And you must respect and be willing to support your mate’s development and goals. With such a strong base, staying together is relatively easy.
And I’ll let you in on a secret: people without any dreams or aspirations usually aren’t as interesting as those with a sense of purpose. If you’ve ever met someone who has given up wanting anything for his future, you know they tend to lack enthusiasm and are not much fun to be around. They lower the energy level in the room and are likely to be relationship challenged as well.
Once in a committed relationship, you often have to juggle time and energy for jobs, family members and friends. Something that is important to your partner can and should change how you plan your time--together and apart. Compromises must be made: but often, the big picture of a couple’s life together can be lost before it’s even imagined.
Numerous studies have shown that people who write things down are more likely to get things done. Make a list of the things that are important to you as an individual and as a couple. Writing it down is important even if you never look at it again. Only share your list when you feel ready. And your partner’s list may surprise you!
Your goals, dreams, and wishes: Write down all of them, even those you (or others) believe might be unattainable.
Long-term goals: In all of the craziness of daily life, it’s easy to lose sight of things that really matter. Keeping a list of what’s most important to you individually and as a couple can help make those important things your priority.
Setting and reaching even small goals will make you feel better and get you further than you ever imagined. So when all else fails put this on your calendar: get up, get out, and do something – anything that will get you moving towards your goals.
A “keeper” has compatible life goals. But if he or she isn’t, at least you’ve got the perfect exit line, “I believe we have different goals”. You won’t be riding into the sunset together because you both did your homework and MADE THAT LIST. Remember: it is easier to reach the stars with someone to hold the ladder.
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